The big party this weekend. The after-prom gathering. The unsupervised sleepover. As your kids get older, there will be plenty of situations where they could encounter peer pressure. Have you thought about what your position will be when your kids are faced with these scenarios?

Developing consistent boundaries with your kids is something parents need to think about well before the situation arises.

Here are a few tips for maintaining positive consistency with your kids:

1.    Make sure you and your spouse are on the same page.

Before you start a conversation with your kids, sit down with your spouse and identify and agree on appropriate boundaries. That way you’ll be prepared to present a united and consistent front when talking with your children.

2.    Maintain clear and consistent boundaries.

Regardless of the scenario (prom, graduation, holidays), clearly and repeatedly voice your boundaries. Repetition leads to retention with your kids.

3.    Keep the conversation going.

Even if there isn’t an event coming up or an issue on the table, continue to engage in conversations with your kids about what you expect. Look at these conversations as an opportunity for your kids to share their plan of action.

4.    Model responsible behavior.

We as parents are the most powerful influence on our kids. Your children will view you as an example of what to do and what not to do. It’s important to be a good role model to encourage positive and responsible behavior.

Consistency is key to building confidence, understanding and positive connections with your kids. For more tips like these, visit our Coach page.